Today has been a pretty sad day. After the last few weeks I've had one of my close but not close friends passed away this morning. Tonya and I had a love hate relationship. She and I have known each other for a very long time. And we definitely have a sordid past. To those reading that do not know, My older son Jaden is the result of a drunken affair with her ex husband. Yes, I've done some things in my past that I am very much not proud of. Somehow though, she managed to, even though she never totally got over it all was able to be friends with me and civil without wanting to rip my face off. I sure as hell would have killed a girl, much less made an attempt to be friends. But somehow she did it. She forgave me and moved on. Yes, Tonya was a character and a half. I honestly thought that I was loud and funny, until I met her. She was me on steroids. But she had a sweetness to her. She allowed herself to be vulnerable and showed her heart. Which was friggin HUGE, might I add. I remember last Christmas there was a family that she adopted from her son's school and organized getting people to help this family. She was so excited and so thrilled that most everybody at work was on board and helped her out. She was doing a wonderful thing.
To her, everything was always 1,000 times worse or better than the typical person would see it. Yes, she was a drama queen beyond anyone's imagination. People loved her for that though. Me included. She always brought excitement, whether it be good or bad if she was around there was going to be some sort of craziness. There were a lot of times when I had no clue how to deal with her. She was just too much sometimes. We shared a lot of good times. Only a few bad because she would never confront me on things. She would just quit talking to me and a few months to a year later, we would usually find each other and be cool again. It was surely a strange friendship but I guess it worked for us. I wouldn't doubt it if she felt the same way about me. I'm a strange person sometimes. I could go into all kinds of scenarios and times that are special to me about her, but it would probably take several days.
Through the good and bad, up and down, Tonya was a very special person. Even though we weren't close at the end of her life, I miss her dearly and am saddened by her untimely death. I truly feel terrible for her son Cameron. He is only 6 years old and losing his mother.
Tonya, I didn't tell you often but, you were a wonderful person, and I am blessed to have been able to get to know you. No, more suffering, you are now with God.
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